the loss is transformative, in good ways and bad, a tangle of change that cannot be threaded into the usual narrative spools...It's not an emergence from the cocoon, but a tree growing around an obstruction. - Meghan O'Rourke
What had happened still seemed implausible. A person was present your entire life, and then one day she disappeared and never came back. It resisted belief. - Meghan O'Rourke
It wasn't the "I love you" she heard that made her let him go. It was the "Come with me" that she didn't. - Meghan O'Connor
Relationships take up energy; letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. When you lose someone you were close to, you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. The more your identity was wrapped up with the deceased, the more difficult the loss. - Meghan O'Rourke